Nyc dating scene for women
There are so many damn people you would think it’d be easier, but it’s not. What makes New York equally amazing and horrible for dating is the sheer number of options.
Usually the best first dates start with a drink, maybe at a bar in the East Village, where you talk for hours and determine that you both share a love of dim sum and Chinese beer. Then, during the meal, you both discover that you both have stiff shoulders, so it’s off to a massage place on the Lower East Side for cheap massages.“He cut all my food up for me and wouldn’t let me use my own fork. Online, the man seemed normal to a fault, but turned out to be a proper weirdo.Another guy I went out with had a phobia of nudity. And if your neighborhood happens to be more than three stops outside Manhattan? Yes, New Yorkers also pass on prospective mates because they're too nice, needy, live in a neighborhood that’s inconvenient, or are just plain weird. You’re usually meeting at the bar/restaurant/coffee shop. What if it’s one of the eight months a year when it’s freezing or those other four when it’s unbearably humid? If they offer to meet you at a spot in your neighborhood, even better! (This never happened.) Thinning the herd can also mean dumping the rugby-playing med student because he was super available and attentive.Or because you really want that summer share in the Hamptons. Maybe you’re a traditionalist and you still believe you can meet someone in Central Park... This can be why most New Yorkers don’t want to commit, because they know that there will always be someone else, theoretically better, right around the corner.
Or someone to call "babe" every Sunday morning at brunch at The Smith. Like, literally, around the corner you can see right now.
“Unusual.” “There’s either something physically very strange about them or they’re just a really odd person who likes telling you about how different they are.
Maybe it’s a New York thing.” Which sites do these alternative types frequent?
These are just a small fraction of the things that enter into your mind.
And you have to figure out how to get yourself there. Does waiting at the bar with a drink make you look totally chill, or like a raging alcoholic?
The perception is that there’s always something better and/or trendier.