Online dating response rate by race
Lewis found similar patterns: "Most men (except black men) are unlikely to initiate contact with black women, all men (including Asian men) are unlikely to reply to Asian women, and although women from all racial backgrounds tend to initiate contact with men from the same background, women from all racial backgrounds also disproportionately reply to white men." Ok Cupid, like so many places, is good place to be a white dude.
He needed online dating only to “work once,” he says, and it did.“I think there was a long time where I felt ashamed, ashamed or self-conscious, or attributing me being single to the fact that I don’t have these qualities and I need to have these qualities in order to attract people.Even though intellectually I knew it wasn’t true, but emotionally [I was] blaming myself for not meeting a seemingly objective standard of what is attractive.” MC Maltempo, a 36-year-old Korean American who grew up in Golden, Colo., also met his significant other online.The race of the sender goes across the bottom, while the rate of the user receiving the message is on the right (the depth of the graph).Some limitations of this study: It only looked at a subset of heterosexual interactions on one dating site, whose users, co-founder Christian Rudder wrote on Ok Trends, "are better-educated, younger, and far more progressive than the norm." (A 2010 Pew report found Millennials were far more likely than other age groups to accept interracial marriage.) So the findings may not apply to all dating demographics.In the process, Montecillo, 25, also learned to not judge himself based on others people’s standards.
“I feel like I’ve grown into being more socially outgoing and talkative, but I wasn’t always that way,” he said.
It was around then that he saw Ok Cupid’s data on race and attraction.
Compared with black, white and Latino men, Asian men receive fewer matches and messages from women on the dating site.
"In other words, part of the reason site users, and especially minority site users, do not express interest in individuals from a different racial background is because they anticipate—based on a lifetime of experiences with racism—that individuals from a different background will not be interested in them," This, according to the paper, could be a mediating factor in why people are more likely to reply to users of another race than message them first—they're sure the person is interested in them if they receive a message.
The rate of sending and receiving messages across different races.
Montecillo, whose parents are Filipino, was born in New York and spent 13 years living in Hong Kong.